A couple of days ago a friend from Chicago shared on Facebook a story about "suspended" coffee and lunches. I then shared it on my page so many of you have probably already seen it but here it is again with the story:
This story will warm you better more than a coffee on a cold winter day...Please "Share" to spread the news x
"We enter a little coffeehouse with a friend of mine and give our order. While we're approaching our table two people come in and they go to the counter -
'Five coffees, please. Two of them for us and three suspended'
They pay for their order, take the two and leave.
I ask my friend: 'What are those 'suspended' coffees ?' 'Wait for it and you will see' she replies...
Some more people enter. Two girls ask for one coffee each, pay and go. The next order was for seven coffees and it was made for three lawyers - three for them and four 'suspended'.
While I still wonder what's the deal with those 'suspended' coffees I enjoy the sunny weather and the beautiful view towards the square in front of the café.
Suddenly a man dressed in shabby clothes who looks like a beggar comes in through the door and kindly asks 'Do you have a suspended coffee ?'
It's simple - people pay in advance for a coffee meant for someone who can not afford a warm beverage.
The tradition with the suspended coffees started in Naples, but it has spread all over the world and in some places you can order not only a suspended coffee, but also a sandwich or a whole meal."
Then I started looking at some of the organizations to which people donate for whatever cause or reason and I saw many donations marked "anonymous". Then one of my cousins wrote in the comments section of Facebook, "Truly anonymous gift, double blind actually. Interesting."
I think that it is hard for most people to accept charity. They may feel anger, shame, sadness and many other emotions. But if it is a donation that is made anonymously, perhaps that makes it easier for them to accept. And we don't need the recognition of having donated. If we have that need, then we are giving for our own egos and not because we really care.
So, try to start and spread the word of "suspended" coffees and meals in your neighborhood. Or if you are eating lunch somewhere and you see someone there who is obviously in need, as you walk out of the restaurant, casually put a $5 or $10 bill by them without their seeing your face and just keep walking. There are a thousand things you can do without showing your face or giving your name. It is the small kindnesses that often make a huge difference to people. A bigger difference perhaps than what you can even imagine. And isn't that the whole point?